But from time to time, you’ll get stuck with things. No matter how good your intentions, some of those tasks will be a challenge to finish.
There are many reasons you might get stuck and unable to get things done: It can be just a lack of knowledge, a piece of the work you’ve never done before, or you’ve come across unexpected steps on the process.
Some of my clients come to me because they don’t know how to create a product or a free gift for their website. They might have problems choosing the topic, organizing the content or giving it the right name… so they feel stuck.
But all those obstacles are the easiest to get rid of. I can easily teach them the know-how and they can get it done quickly. It was just a case of “not enough information”.
But there is totally different kind of block. It’s insiduous if you don’t know how to deal with it. And because it is much more difficult to spot it on your own, it can really stop you on your tracks for a long, long time.
I’m referring to emotional blocks.
Have you ever noticed that when you feel uncomfortable about doing something, it’s more difficult to get it done?
None of us likes feeling bad, so if handling a task makes us feel bad, we’ll try everything we can to avoid it. We will distract ourselves by doing something else: surfing the internet, eating something, cleaning your office (was it really so important to tidy your home office today?), You get the idea: we’ll do whatever it is to avoid feeling those painful emotions inside of us.
The trigger can be either the task at hand like: “I’ve never been good with numbers, how am I supposed to understand google analytics? It’s too boring!” or it can be what we fear might happen once the task is finished: “What if nobody reads my articles? What if everyone makes fun of me?”
Will power is a limited resource. And in these kind of situations, it will take you only so far. What you need to get those tasks done is to release your painful emotions, recover a sense of inner peace, and “Voilá! you’ll get back into your creative flow.
As Steven Pressfield, author of the book “The war of art” would say: “You are dealing with resistance here.”
So what can you do when, none amount of knowledge, or will power will move your project forward? This is when you take one of my favorite tools out of the box and start getting rid of those inner blocks.
I’m talking about tapping.
Tapping is a stress release technique that is known for calming down that part of the brain (the amigdala) that gets fired up and active whenever we are faced with a perceived danger.
And since you can feel Resistance in your body like a physical sensation (tightness, or constriction) or a painful emotion (fear, worry, anxiety), tapping is one of the easiest ways of getting rid of those negative emotions.
The downside of doing tapping is that, well…, I have to admit it looks a bit weird. You have to touch repeatedly a few accupunture points in your face and torso,
But before you discard it, (and if you really want to have a handy tool at your fingertips that will help you get unstuck everytime you need it), give it a try. You may end up so hooked with it as I am.
CHARO’S COACHING TIP
- Think about a project you need to get done but don’t seem to be able to move forward with.
- Close your eyes and imagine yourself doing it. Then imagine the project already done. which one of those things triggers you the most? choose that situation as your focus for the tapping.
- Bring that situation to your mind again. Now pay attention to your body, both to your physical sensations and your emotions:
Is there any tension? where?
Is there any tightness? constriction?
What are you feeling? is there any fear, anxiety, worry?
- Rate the intensity of those feelings and sensations on a scale from 0 to 10, where 0 is no feelings at all, and 10 is as high as it can be.
- Jot down everything in a piece fo paper, and keep it as a reference point.
- Now give this weird thing called tapping a try by repeating the sentences below while tapping the accupunture points.
(You can see a graphic of the tapping points below)
Karate Chop point:
– Even though I’m stuck with this project, and I can’t seem to move forward with it, I admit that is my truth right now.
-Even though I’m so stuck it seems I will never get this project done, I admit that’s exactly what I feel at the moment.
– Even though I feel stuck with this project and that is so frustrating for me, I accept that is exactly what I feel.
First tapping round:
Eyebrow: I’m so stuck with this project…
Side of the eye: I don’t know how to get this done.
Under the eye: What if I do it and nobody likes it?
Under nose and chin: What if other people critizice me for this project?
Collarbone: I’ll rather be stuck than being rejected by those who don’t like my project.
Under the arm: I feel so stuck that it’s frustrating.
Top of the head: I wish I could feel better and get this project done.
Take a nice deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Second tapping round:
Eyebrow: I’m so nervous about making this project public.
Side of the eye: What if they judge me?
Under the eye: I can feel the tightness and tension in my body.
Under nose and chin: I’m so worried about what other people might thinkg about my project if I make it public…
Under the arm: I’m so worried that my mind doesn’t want to focus on this project.
Top of the head: No wonder I’m stuck with this.
Third round of tapping
Eyebrow: A part of me doesn’t want to do it.
Side of the eye: So my mind just wants to run away and do something else.
Under the eye: I’m so worried that after putting so much effort…
Under nose and chin: …nobody will be interested in my project.
Collarbone: A part of me feels safer if I don’t do it.
Top of the head: But wiser, stronger part of me knows how to get this project done, while keeping me safe.
Take a nice deep breath in through the nose and out through your mouth.
- Go back to your body, How intense are those feelings of tension, fear, or whateer you were feeling now? are they as strong as before?
Repeat the sequences above until you feel better and the intensity of your fear goes at least below a 3 (better if you get to a zero, but it will probably be difficult to get there on your own.)
So keep tapping until you get rid of those uncomfortable fears. The next thing you’ll know is you are moving forward with your project, and getting the stuff done!.
And please leave your comments below, what were you able to achieve after doing the tapping?